mal•a•prop n. - the unintentional misuse of a word by confusion with one that sounds similar

Example: You need an altitude adjustment, you’re too self-defecating.”

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prop•o•si•tion (prp-zshn) n.

1. A Subject for discussion or analysis.
2. A statement that affirms or denies something.

Example: “I think you should go play a nice game of hide-and-go-fuck-yourself.”

Thursday, November 1, 2007

Decisions are Acceptable

Somewhere along the line we’ve lost something very important. We seem to have lost our ability to see the shades of grey in matters that are actually pretty important. We’ve gotten to the point where not supporting the policies of Israel makes you an anti-semite, not being in favor of affirmative action makes you a racist, and thinking Will & Grace is kind of a lame show makes you homophobic. The thing is, we are all judgmental and racist and classist to a degree. We have to accept that, and then learn to tolerate it to the extent that it does not interfere with the freedom and progress of our society. We then can define when it is unacceptable and harmful. In other words, if ALL judgments and perceptions are unacceptable, then they all become equally acceptable.

Look I’m not a big fan of racial profiling. It just smacks of... wrongness. On the other hand, the statistics bear out some trends we would be stupid to ignore. Certain types of terrorist attacks tend to be perpetrated by a certain class of people. Do we ignore that? When you’re on a plane, don’t tell me you don’t look around and size up the passengers.

I once heard some executive of a large fried chicken franchise doing a radio call-in show. Someone called in and accused him of running a racist company: “It’s disgusting and racist! How come you put those fried chicken places in black neighborhoods more than white ones?”. This business man was obviously confused by the inference. He didn’t understand the problem here. He didn’t make a connection between racial stereotypes of black people eating fried chicken and his business. He saw demographics, revenue stream reports, profit and loss statements and marketing budgets. His answer: “Well, the reason we do that is because black people proportionately eat more fried chicken than white people. I’m not sure I understand the question.”

Is he a racist?

The trick here is to rely on accurate information. There's no question that stereotypes can be bad. But they can also make things move more smoothly. It depends on how they are applied. There is room for minutia here. In order to make rational decisions we need to have the right information. We cannot obtain that information in a vacuum of secrecy. If we become afraid of even considering a judgmental thought we are doomed to innaction. All things become equally bad or equally good. Therefore, everything becomes black and white, right and wrong, good an evil.


Polarized.

There is an acceptable level of judgmental behavior that is not only normal, but actually necessary in order to get through our daily lives. We make decisions based on our circumstance and what we know. We can't possibly consider everything from every angle. We have to make the best decisions with the information we have available.

I know that not EVERY old lady behind the wheel is a bad driver, but you won’t see me lingering behind her on the Interstate. I know that not EVERY little kid is a screaming, annoying irritation machine, but you won’t see me eating at Chuck E. Cheese. Making a judgment about two creepy looking guys hanging out in a dark alley may make you walk across the street and avoid that dark alley. Maybe those guys were just helping to clean up garbage for their local Rotary Club. I don’t know, and that’s okay.


6 comments:

Patina said...

I think the trick is to be self-aware enough that you can identify when you are being irrational or overly judgmental about a group of people based on limited knowledge about a few.

Before I worked in juvenile court, I would be so ashamed when I felt scared coming across a group of urban, generally black, males. I'd tell myself, "If that was a group of white, middle-class male athletes, I wouldn't feel like I had to walk across the street."

However, then I worked in juvenile court and heard time after time the cases involving groups of urban males that included rape, assault, robbery, aggravated robbery, and murder. Now, I understand the fear I felt. It may have just been a primal feeling of self-preservation. Do I think all urban males are criminals? No. But I also know that all urban males are not saints either and I'd rather be safe.

Scott Muggli said...

I think the solution here is to clearly define what is acceptable to make these sorts of judgement calls about. I think comedy is probably the best barameter here. So, what is it okay to make fun of and what is not? Define that list, and we have our socially acceptable levels of intolerance.

I think we could all use some guidance here in order to avoid embarrasing situations where we honestly meant no harm.

It's not okay to make fun of...

Unknown said...

I feel like you are missing a large part of this issue. You are implying that it is acceptable, if not necessary, to make decisions based on arbitrary factors like race.

You grant that there is some sort of "wrongness" in doing this, but also note that we can't instaneously make 100% informed decisions. You're solution to this problem says that we can look to statisics to help guide us in our decision making process.

Scott, this does not help us deal with each other and our differences in any way. This hurts us. When you start saying things like, "Statisically, black people eat more fried chicken than white people." or "Statisically, there are more black people on death row." or any number of sentences you can start out by saying "Statitically speaking...", when you do this, you are starting to equate the statisics to something intrisic in the race itself. In doing this you ignore all of the reasons WHY the statisics are there and start thinking that black people eat more fried chicken because, well because they are black.

We can't start thinking this way. We can't start saying that, in the same way that there are genes that make us have different hair and noses, that there are genes that give us a taste for fried chicken.

Scott Muggli said...

Mike, Now that you've artfully described what we can't do, why don't you take a stab at what we can do. I get your point and was expecting a firestorm of this sort of thing, albeit, not from you.

I make no assumptions about the causes of statistical or observational data that serve to inform people's decisions. I do however, acknowledge that they happen. I guess my point is, ignoring that fact leades to more misunderstanding and harms our ability to detect the negative parts of these judgements by giving them validity. As I said, there's room (and necessary room I think) for minutia here.

If you really need me to prescribe a solution, I think I did as best as I will in my previous comment on this thread.

Anonymous said...

At times like these, I find a little bit of wisdom from Avenue Q can be helpful:

Princeton:
You're a little bit racist.

Kate Monster:
Well, you're a little bit too.

Princeton:
I guess we're both a little bit racist.

Kate Monster:
Admitting it is not an easy thing to do...

Princeton:
But I guess it's true.

Kate Monster:
Between me and you,
I think

Both:
Everyone's a little bit racist
Sometimes.
Doesn't mean we go
Around committing hate crimes.
Look around and you will find
No one's really color blind.
Maybe it's a fact
We all should face
Everyone makes judgments
Based on race.

Princeton:
Now not big judgments, like who to hire or who to buy a newspaper from -

Kate Monster:
No!

Princeton:
No, just little judgments like thinking that Mexican busboys should learn to speak goddamn English!

Kate Monster:
Right!

Both:
Everyone's a little bit racist
Today.
So, everyone's a little bit racist
Okay!
Ethinic jokes might be uncouth,
But you laugh because
They're based on truth.
Don't take them as
Personal attacks.
Everyone enjoys them -
So relax!



PS. In case it's not clear, I'm not, nor have I ever been, called "Mike" (except for those four years in college, during which I was pretty much drunk every day so I didn't care what people called me...)

Scott Muggli said...

MF, thanks for sharing this. Wonderful stuff. It's the last line of that song that best makes my point:

All:
Everyone's a little bit racist
It's true.
But everyone is just about
As racist as you!
If we all could just admit
That we are racist a little bit,
And everyone stopped being
So PC
Maybe we could live in -
Harmony!